Don’t believe me?

Think about the last time you felt really bad. Whether it was because you felt sad, anxious, stressed, or angry, any of those unpleasant emotions will do. Chances are as soon as you realized that you were feeling it you probably tried to stop it. You might have tried to distract yourself, use oping skills, lasted out, or ran away, you wanted the not-good feeling to stop.

(Note: There is nothing wrong with using coping skills, in fact they are a huge part of the healing process and my work! But coping skills are helpful for managing emotions, not getting to the root cause and seeing whats’s happening on a deeper level)

Now think about the last time you felt really good. Whether you were laughing, relaxing, or just plain happy. Did you let yourself really lean into it and savor that experience in your mind, body, and soul? Probably not. You probably either rushed into the next thing you needed to do OR you realized what was happening and stopped it because if you stay in that feeling too long you wont be ready for when the next bad thing happens.

So I say it again, feeling the feelings is hard. BUTTTTT not impossible!

A large part of my work is in guiding and supporting my clients to not only build an awareness to feel their emotions, but to also help them rebuild that trust they have with their feelings. It’s through this learning and feeling that my clients gain a deeper understanding to the inner wounds they have, what truly makes them happy, and build a healthy relationship with their body so they can hear when it’s telling them something. And when I get to watch it happen, it’s the coolest fuckin thing!

“Victoria, how can I start to do that?”

It’s simple, but not easy. Your very first step is to first become aware how you experience your emotions in your body. How do you know when you’re feeling happy? How do you know when you’re feeling sad? How does your body alert you to this information?

Allow yourself to take your time with this process and be very compassionate towards yourself. After all, no one taught you this!  

This blog was originally published on 10/07/2024. © (Victoria Prather, LLC)  2024- present